Trauma, dissociation, relationships, death:
Everything for those with and without borderline disorders
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The books in the "The Monster and Love" series
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more to come :)
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Monsters and the Love Series Gallery
Monster and the Love Series Reviews
Describes in a very mindful and loving way what might be behind the destructive part. I open a way in a very vivid and easy to understand way - based on the work with the inner child - to deal with the apparent "inner enemy". I do this in a wonderful story
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with loving illustrations
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with simple language
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with self-help tips for dealing with self-harm
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for sufferers, relatives, professionals and anyone looking for new perspectives
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simply explained as psychological self-help
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with an afterword by the author, founder of www.i-borderline.at
The books are now used in specialist clinics to support therapy and are read by patients, relatives, professionals and the general public.
The book is ideal for personal reading and also makes a wonderful gift. Enjoy reading and giving!
Dealing with relationships: relatives and BPD
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Co-dependency, inability to relate, fear of closeness, powerlessness, emotional dependency: these are some of the issues that can arise in relationship dynamics. Both sufferers and their loved ones feel helpless and misunderstood. ead more about this in Borderline and Friendship as well as Borderline and Love.
I get a lot of questions about
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Breaking off contact or relationship
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Closeness - distance or on-off
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Not being able to have a relationship or love borderline people
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Manipulation or cheating
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Toxic or borderline relationships are dangerous for others
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In a loving and easy-to-understand narrative style, I show how a good relationship can work despite mental illness. I give important tips on how to deal with a friendship or love relationship. I want to emphasise that we are all capable of relationships and worthy of love!
Dealing with relationships: relatives and BPD
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Co-dependency, inability to relate, fear of closeness, powerlessness, emotional dependency: these are some of the issues that can arise in relationship dynamics. Both sufferers and their loved ones feel helpless and misunderstood. ead more about this in Borderline and Friendship as well as Borderline and Love.
I get a lot of questions about
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Breaking off contact or relationship
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Closeness - distance or on-off
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Not being able to have a relationship or love borderline people
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Manipulation or cheating
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Toxic or borderline relationships are dangerous for others
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In a loving and easy-to-understand narrative style, I show how a good relationship can work despite mental illness. I give important tips on how to deal with a friendship or love relationship. I want to emphasise that we are all capable of relationships and worthy of love!
Dealing with relationships: relatives and BPD
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Co-dependency, inability to relate, fear of closeness, powerlessness, emotional dependency: these are some of the issues that can arise in relationship dynamics. Both sufferers and their loved ones feel helpless and misunderstood. ead more about this in Borderline and Friendship as well as Borderline and Love.
I get a lot of questions about
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Breaking off contact or relationship
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Closeness - distance or on-off
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Not being able to have a relationship or love borderline people
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Manipulation or cheating
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Toxic or borderline relationships are dangerous for others
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In a loving and easy-to-understand narrative style, I show how a good relationship can work despite mental illness. I give important tips on how to deal with a friendship or love relationship. I want to emphasise that we are all capable of relationships and worthy of love!
Dealing with unpleasant feelings
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The main characters are:
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Elise - She keeps getting sucked into her emotional world, isolating herself in her dark holes and is at a loss.
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The wise tree - Elise discusses with him what she should do. How should she deal with it?
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Frank (in English, like [Frank]): Elise confronts one part of herself and meets another.
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Love.
This humorous trio helps Elise look at a buried, sad part of herself and change the way she sees it. You can read more about the book in my blog post: Borderline Book!
Dealing with self-harm
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Sometimes we find memories or feelings unbearable. To get through this, we may self-harm in different ways.
This behaviour can be very diverse: for example, we may turn to numbing substances, emotional eating, self-mutilation, addiction or harmful relationships. But what exactly is behind it, and how can we let go of the self-harming part?
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Listening to this part of ourselves not only teaches us a lot about ourselves, but also about how we can finally create a good life for ourselves! Because that is what we deserve.
Der Tod & der Sinn des Lebens
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Was ist der Sinn des Lebens? Und warum müssen wir eigentlich sterben?
Der Tod macht Angst und wir schenken ihm als Lebende kaum Beachtung. Ich fragte mich: Wofür lebe ich noch? Ehe ich mich versah, erzählte mir der Tod vom Leben - und warum er gar nicht so schlimm ist, wie alle denken.
Gerne möchte ich anhand dieser Geschichte teilen, was sich mir zeigte: Wie wichtig der Tod für ein glückliches, authentisches Leben ist und umgekehrt.
Death and the meaning of life
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What is the meaning of life? And why do we have to die?
Death is frightening and as living people we hardly pay any attention to it. I asked myself: What am I living for? Before I knew it, death was telling me about life - and why it is not as bad as everyone thinks.
I want to use this story to share what was revealed to me: how important death is for a happy, authentic life, and vice versa.
Dealing with powerlessness
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In trauma, powerlessness can lead to dissociation. This is the splitting off of feelings, experiences and even parts of the body in order to stop feeling unbearable things. Those affected are then 'defragmented' - their 'I' is no longer a unit.
The book describes in a very mindful and loving way what might be behind the powerlessness and how we can deal with it. It is so important to look at these parts: This is how we finally enable ourselves to live a good life full of aliveness!
The author has made the story so easy to understand that it is a life aid for everyone....
I especially liked the personal preface and epilogue... I believe that the author helps many people with her story and the book to understand themselves better and to become healthy step by step...
(Gertrude S.)
I can only recommend it to anyone who has to deal with their psyche or wants to make it easier for relatives to understand. It is very easy to read and explains everything comprehensively and easily.
(Patrick F.)
This book is such an important contribution to our society! Mental illness is still a taboo in our society. As a result, sufferers feel left alone or not taken seriously and the rest of the world has no idea about it. On the other hand, the author gives a voice to those affected and shows: "You are not alone!" On the other hand, she also shows others what it is like to live with a mental illness. I highly recommend this book! Thank you for this heartfelt work!
(Sara S.)
The book does a great job of showing in an understandable way how people with mental health problems feel. It helps to de-taboo the subject and also gives people who know little about the subject an insight into emotional worlds that not everyone knows about.
(Michael T.)
I am very impressed. I work the same way with my clients. They all have a monster in them. The first client who discovered this monster in himself for his own protection called it the Hulk. Together with his family the name was found. When Hulk was finally allowed to disappear, or rather to rest, he was as happy as Frank in your booklet. Another customer named his monster King Kong. I have long understood that this is a protective mechanism of my clients (the term is gender-neutral). Each of us, with or without a mental/emotional illness, carries such a protection. Some call it "healthy suspicion". This booklet is very valuable. The illustrations also help to accept the words better.
Many thanks for this valuable work.
(Sabine Thiel, non-medical practitioner - psychotherapy)